Thoughts Program Lesson 1
WHAT YOU THINK
What we think determines how and what we do-- and many times, how we eat, drink, rest, sleep, and breathe. This is the one factor that makes us different from a machine, our ability to think and react to situations. If you are letting things get to you, the other areas suffer.
Think about the things in your life that stress you out, and then based on that stress what type of choices do you make in your life? For instance, what food choices do you make when you are stressed? Most of us probably don’t say, “I am stressed out. I really want some salad and carrots!”
Our stress and what we think about determines what we put in our bodies, how we breathe, whether we are motivated enough and feel good enough about ourselves to exercise, and if and how well we sleep.
What we think biologically changes the chemistry of our body. Our thoughts have the ability to weaken us, or strengthen us. Since we have sixty thousand thoughts a day there are so many times in a day that we have the chance to make ourselves stronger or weaker!
THE LAW OF ATTRACTION
Simply put, we attract the things that we think. So how can we look for the lesson behind what it happening, behind what we are thinking? Let's explore what we mean by this.
According to quantum physics, “like attracts like.” The Law of Attraction states that you are a human magnet. Rather than things happening randomly to you, actually you attract things into your life based on your thoughts and beliefs. So what you think about, you bring about. If you believe something is true, then you attract these things into your life that make that true. You can create your own reality while dealing with the hard stuff.
During those first few years of life, we don’t have control over our environments. We are told what to do and what not to do, we learn what is acceptable behavior, and we learn how to adapt so we can survive. This is when we develop a lot of our coping mechanisms in dealing with our “bears.”
We learn our world views--the thoughts about the world around us-- during this time. We learn these views through what we are told, what we see, what we modeled, and what the reactions were to our behavior. We learn how to act and react during this time. We also learn how to survive and not “get eaten by the bears.” Our bodies (our subconscious) remember everything that happened to us, even if our mind cannot recall it.
For example, imagine that you are two years old. You love to color and create and explore. You walk into a room with all white walls. You are so excited! You have crayons but no paper and you are ecstatic that you have all of this space in which to create. You are smiling and happy without a care in the world. You pick up your crayons and begin to create! You draw your mommy and your dad, your toys and your puppy, your house, and the tree out front. It is so pretty! Your dad walks in, you are so excited to show him the beautiful pictures that you made, he is going to be so proud of you. But he looks mad and he yells at you really loudly, he spanks you on the butt and it hurts. Your stomach flip-flops, your heart beats fast, you are so scared you don’t even start crying yet. Your muscles get tight and you hear him say that you were bad, then the tears come out.
Your body doesn’t know exactly what happened, but it knows that you were being creative and it caused you pain. “Creative” is your new stressor, even though you might not even know what “creative” means at that young of an age. The next time that you are being creative, you should be careful so you don’t get hurt, or you might not even want to be creative again since it is not a safe thing to do anymore.
The next time that you have creative thoughts maybe you see colors and your friends are coloring, your stomach might flip-flop and your heart might start racing. Your body is remembering that things associated with your emotion of being creative may not be good for you to be doing.
You have just made a new world view that it is not safe to be creative therefore whenever you are creative you may tense up.
The Law of Attraction says that if you think that it is not good or safe to be creative, then you will attract those things in your life to make that true.
In writing class in second grade, it will be hard for you to write a poem. You will think “I am just not creative.” And you get a stomachache.
In third grade, your friends will laugh at your picture, even though they didn’t mean anything by it. Your heart races and you are scared of them judging you.
By fourth grade your parents say, “Our girl, she just isn’t the creative type, she just likes math.” Your muscles get tight when you hear them say it.
These situations come into play because we already have a view that it isn’t okay to be creative. You will continue to attract these situations and bodily reactions into your life until you clear it, and you retrain yourself to feel that it is okay to be creative with affirmations that “You are creative” and that “It is safe to be creative.” By forgiving those people that made fun of you or didn’t encourage you, you come to peace with it. Over time, your body doesn’t respond with the stress reactions from something you’ve been carrying around since you were two years old.
The Law of Attraction states that whatever our world view tell us, then we attract that. We bring it into our lives to make it true. If you think that you are or are not something, then it becomes true.
Growing up you may have been told, “You can do anything as long as you set your mind to it.”
This is true. What they don’t know or forgot to tell you is that if you don’t fully believe that you can or contradict what you really want with the opposite actions, then it may not happen. You have to fully believe (as much as you humanly can) that you are capable of doing it and see it happening for you to draw that into your life.
It is not coincidence then, it happens because you attract it to experience it and learn from it.
So how do you attract what you want when you have what you don’t want right now?
By changing your thinking.
One step at a time, with grace and ease...
Before we get into how we shift our thoughts, we first need to find out what we are thinking about.
Observe your thoughts for a day.
Try and pick a more “normal” run of the mill day (if you have those, it's whatever your normal is)-- so that you have the general range of thoughts that you would in a regular work, school, or parenting day. Without judging or changing, you are just going to become the observer.
Can you, just for one day, notice what the thoughts are that enter and leave your mind?? There will be patterns here that show us what we are dealing with-- and what might be getting in the way of how you want to feel and where you want to be.
Feel free to jot some of these patterns down. We have provided a worksheet for you to use if you would like. If there is anything that spurs these thoughts, or correlate with when and how you have then, make note of this as well.
Over the next day or two begin working at being consciously aware of the blips that are running through your head.
Start asking yourself the questions that we have for you below. You can write down your answers throughout the day, or whenever makes most sense for the life you live. You can download the PDF worksheet here or jot down these questions on your own.
What thoughts am I having throughout the day?
What are the main thoughts that are taking up my energy?
What am I saying to myself during the day?
Are there main themes or emotions? (Am I scared, mad, feeling unworthy, overwhelmed, tired, etc?)
Do any of these thoughts give me a body reaction? (Stomach knots or tightness, shoulder tension, head throbbing, temperature change, buzzy or zips through the body, anxiety or heaviness in the chest, etc.)
Next lesson: Why we don't have what we want. Four thought blockages that get in the way of aligning with what we DO want...